Simple Self Nurturance

How often to you take time to slow down and just nurture yourself? We all long for self nurturance. We know it is what we need.

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We know that it would do us good.

Yet, if you are like most women, you spend more time taking care of others and thinking of others than you do yourself. It’s so easy to get caught up in the ‘busy’-ness of life and forget about nurturing yourself.

When I fall into my unhealthy habit of overworking and forgetting to slow down, I forget all about self nurturance. Then, I slip into a cycle of work, work, work and getting stressed out. It usually takes being sick or on my monthly moontime to get me out of this rut and back to taking time out to nurture myself.

I think self nurturance is directly related to self value. The more we value ourselves and like ourselves, the more likely we are to take care of ourselves. Taking care of ourselves in a meaningful way is Self Nurturance.

There was a big turning point in my life when I realized I was not treating myself well and in doing so I was not expecting nor requiring others to treat me well either. I ended up asking myself a powerful question: “If I was a mother and someone was treating my little girl the way they were treating me, what would I do?”

Well, this led to lots of tears and a deep realization that I was not tending to myself appropriately, lovingly or kindly.

Now, I often recommend this question to my clients:

“If you were a mother and someone was treating your little girl the way YOU are treating yourself, what would you do?”

With that in mind, what new words/thoughts/actions will you hold/take to be more loving, kind and appropriate toward yourself?

Taking the time to tend to myself is an ongoing practice. I practice each day by asking myself, “What do I really need right now.” And “What would really support me right now and how might I give that to myself?”

Just by checking in with yourself you will find that you start to become more self nurturing.

  • Take a few minutes each day to check in with YOU.
  • Put yourself first – even if it’s just for 2 minutes!
  • Breathe deeply and notice how you feel.
  • Allow yourself to feel without judging it or trying to fix it.
  • Ask yourself, “What do I need to feel supported?”
  • “How will I give that to myself?”

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