Do you resist self-nurturance?

Some of us may hold the belief that self nurturance is too luxurious and seems to take too much time. So we don’t do it! We believe we don’t have time; we don’t deserve it; or there are too many other things/people to be taken care of first.

With this attitude we never end up taking care of ourselves!

For me it has taken years of practice and self-awareness (noticing what I’m thinking and believing about taking care of myself in the moment or afterward), to allow myself to slow down and just be.

The easiest times for me to do this is when I notice myself feeling low in energy, starting to get sick or on my ‘magical moon-time’ (menstruation) . These are times when my body let’s me know it is time to slow down. Instead of resisting and fighting and forcing, I just slow down, notice any thoughts such as ‘OMG, I don’t have time to slow down.’ Or ‘There’s so much to do, how can I just be relaxing’. I just allow the thoughts to come up and be a gentle witness to them without reacting to them. It takes practice and a willingness to learn about myself!

Want some ways to nurture yourself? Read more here Petite Retreat

Please share with me … How do you nurture yourself? What resistance comes up for you when you slow down and relax?

Post to Twitter

Related posts:

5 comments to Do you resist self-nurturance?

  • newegg

    My dad has been writing a book precisely on point with this blog, I have emailed him the web address so perhaps he could pick up a couple pointers. Fantastic Job.

  • Yong Cesaire

    Good post. I’ve been searching on this. Looking forward to your next post in this blog.

  • jzoosr

    Great blog! I actually love how it is simple on my eyes as well as the info is well written. I am wondering how I could be notified whenever a health post has been made. I have subscribed to your rss feed which must do the trick! Have a nice day!

  • As women, we’re socialized from such a young age to attend to others’ needs. It’s really difficult for us to give ourselves permission to focus on our own needs. I love your encouragement to be “a gentle witness” to the negative thoughts that come up, “without reacting to them.” What helps me nurture myself is to remember that I can’t give to anyone else if I allow myself to become empty.


    • Linda, I agree! Sometimes it takes retraining ourselves as you say to “give ourselves permission to focus on our own needs.” I run across this so often with my clients. Thank you for expressing it so beautifully and for sharing the truthful wisdom that we must fill ourselves up first in order to truly give to others! Many blessings to you.